Caring for Calves and Kids

My girls love to ask me questions. They love hearing stories from my past and inquire about topics along the way. I was recently telling them a story and they asked me “When did your grandma die?”

I replied, “My first grandma passed away when I was about your age.” 

Later that night my mind began to wonder. You see my mom and I were the same age when we started having kids and my oldest is now the same age I was as the oldest when my grandma, her mom passed away. The thoughts in my head began to snowball. 

“What would it be like right now if I lost my mom?” 

“What was it like for her?”

“How did she go one with two young girls without her mom?” 

“What questions did she want to ask her, but no longer couldn’t?” 

The thoughts when on and on. But it really got me thinking we as women and as moms rely so much on our own moms. She’s the first one you call with good news. She’s the one you turn to when you need help working through a tough situation.

She’s the one who cheers you on from the sidelines no matter how far away that is. She’s the one who listens, holds you when you cry. She’s the one who will watch your kids and spoil them too! 

Moms are the rocks to any family. So what do you do when they aren’t there? A few of my friends are like my mom and lost their moms relatively young. So what did they do? 

Cried. A lot. Which is totally fair. The learned to take it one step at a time and find others who could be that resource. I’m guessing my mom relied a lot more on her mother in law after her mom was gone. And honestly, it’s a void that I’m sure will never be filled. But I truly believe that if you take it day by day you will find some peace.