There’s Expectations, Then There’s Reality

Quietly and subconsciously I think I’ve always had an idea of how my life was going to go or how a certain situation would play out or what outcome I assumed would come. Recently, I realized that this quality has actually robbed me of some happiness in my life.

How? I think I’ve been so fixed on a few things that distract my focus from where my feet are:

Worrying if it doesn’t go as I expected. I’ve been so worried about what will I do if something doesn’t have the outcome I was thinking and expecting it would have. Now realizing I’ve spent so much time worrying. And honestly, worrying is like a rocking chair, you go back and forth, but don’t really get anywhere. I can tell you worrying about the what ifs definitely didn’t get me anywhere.

Frustrated with life’s circumstances. Being a farm wife and mother is definitely not what I expected. It’s not my childhood self’s perspective of what I saw my mom go through. So when I am frustrated about my husband missing a family event or bedtime I come to find that it was my expectation that he would always be around. But my reality is that’s not going to happen – especially with a farmer.
What other people see. Gosh if I could find a way to have this not occupy my head space that would be fantastic! Unfortunately, I think our expectations of all people liking us, helping us, not saying certain things, etc is a very hard one to break and one that will likely always be there. Again, reality is that not everyone will like me and I can’t control what others say about me. But I can control what I do.

If you’re like me expectations in your life are not your reality. So I want to challenge you (and myself) to celebrate the reality of life and erase those expectations that your subconscious has created. Good luck friends!